Introduce yourself, tell us why/if you're upset, worried, anything, or just want some company! you've come to the right place. Allow me to begin. I'm scared for highschool. idk ANYONE. anything you wish you guys knew when you started?
Introduce yourself, tell us why/if you're upset, worried, anything, or just want some company! you've come to the right place. Allow me to begin. I'm scared for highschool. idk ANYONE. anything you wish you guys knew when you started?
My goodness I can't remember that far back haha. I guess... don't get sucked into being a sheep. Be your own person and proud of it.
Good luck :-)
ToxicWaste,
people always tell you not to worry about what others think. i didn't take this advice and i wish i would have listened because they were absolutley right. the truth is you won't ever communicate with 90% of the people you met in school once you graduate. so you should talk to everyone and anyone. be friendly to all but if you run into someone who is a complete jerk or they're just going to weigh you down then they're company you shouldn't keep. do your own thing and fuck the negative things anyone else thinks. true friends won't judge you or your likes/dislikes.
also, go to school to LEARN! don't get caught up with things that aren't going to be benificial to you and your future. when i was in high school i wasted a lot of time...that's it! i just wasted a lot of time. i didn't bother doing work or paying attention or making some kind of plan on what to do in life. needless, to say i'm paying for it now because i have a job instead of a career and i STILL don't know what i want in life...and i'm 28!
as bad or hard as anyone thinks high school is i promise you it's one of the easiest things you will do in life. i'm trying to pay off a car, buy a house, figure out if/when i'm going to get married. and the funny thing is that i know that all these "adult decisions" aren't going to be the hardest decisions of my life. i know things will be a lot more stressful when i have a wife and kids and i have to worry about their future.
recently one of my life-long friends was sent to prison, one of my high school friends asked me to be one of his groom's men, and another long-time friend asked me to be his first born's godfather. i hate to sound cheesy but change does come all at once!
so that is all my advice to you as well as what worries me.
Agree with everything ev0l said. Im a junior now, and oh god do i wish somebody gave me that advice when i was going to highschool! dont give a crap what other people think, because they have no say in your life nor will they in four years, or eight, or even twenty. Focus on studying, because thats all these four years are good for LOL. Just be confident and sure of yourself, and you will go FAR. and don't stress out too much either. I was constantly sick last year just because the stress of algebra/trig was weighing down on me. I look back and i think wow, what a waste of time and health! Enjoy your time in highschool as well. Good luck! :^)
I also agree with what EVOL said.
My biggest regret about HS is that I was shy and lame and thought no girls liked me. As I found out a couple years later, most of the girls in band liked me and I could have dated many of them. So my advice would be to be bold with the ladies. You will be surprised how many of them like you, and your overall experience will definitely be better.
ToxicWaste,
You and I are in the exact same place. Don't worry, you and I will suffer through it together LOL. It can't be that bad. And mpw33 is the rightest person on the planet right now, you have to be bold. Like, ALWAYS! Just don't be a jerk. Don't hang out with the wrong ppl, and remember that everyone went through it eventually! Best of Luck- only a month away!
I had school today :P Thanks everyone! It's great to know there are still kind strangers in the world. It was great!. And, mpw33, I'm in a long-term, long distance relationship :P.
So he had school, a relationship and he's still being nice to us? Someone send ToxicWaste a beer.
i'm 14...a cheesecake shall suffice. :P maybe an extra one when you add being a teenager in? hehe
You guys make me feel old. I turn 37 this month. I'm at least glad some young kids are listening.
Me too... am 33 next week. :-S
I'm 20 and I'm extremely happy that I don't have to go to school anymore. =) Having done my A-levels last year I even refused to give private tuition in my former school. However, now I study English and French to become a teacher- so I guess I have a problem =)
I think you got yourself into that one- so, Intoxicar, I think you have to get yourself out :)
Well, I actually think I can do better than my teachers (believe me that's not really difficult! =) ) and that's actually why I want to become a teacher. So I don't want to get myself out ;-)
There is a problem with high school, and it's the pack mentality. You cram a bunch of animals in the same pen and any one of them that exhibits abnormal behavior gets shunned and possibly stomped out by the pack.
This is the last time that being the same as everyone else will be attractive to you.
You want to live an extraordinary life, no one aims for ordinary.
The way to be extraordinary is to stand out.
The first step of standing out is not fitting in.
I don't expect this to make sense in high school, it took me a while to really believe it myself and I certainly wouldn't have in high school. The awkwardness and discomfort of that age leaves one just emotionally exhausted and willing to do anything to just pass through the day unnoticed.
But no one you've ever admired was afraid of the disapproval of the pack. Don't grovel for the acceptance of people who's only power comes from the consensus.
Odds are the people you 'want' approval from will never give it. The only people I 'wanted' approval from gave it when I stopped wanting it.
I'm dyeing my bangs blue for the beginning of the school year. Wanna join me? I've got three other people doing it :O
Do whatever the hell you want to! Don't worry about fitting in or not fitting in. I know for a fact there is other people out there like you, so you're good... 8)
I just finished high school a few months ago, got my diploma now and don't ever have to go back. It's still fresh on my mind and it really has been both terrible and great at times.
I'm a pretty weird kid, you could say. I'm extremely shy, antisocial and kind of a nerd, I guess. At least I was when I went to high school. My best friends went to other schools, so I was pretty much on my own and had to start all over, which was scary. I've had great years, among witch the first thank god, and terrible years, like the second. It all depends on the people you have to endure that year. What I can tell you is that "be yourself" may sounds nice on paper, but it can really make your life easier to tone it down a bit sometimes. Like, I was a huge game-addict back in those first few years, and even wore T-shirts with videogame-logos and such. NOT recommended. Just keep it to yourself. Of course you can tell about your hobbies, but don't overdo it.
I've experienced my share of bullying, most of which was because my best friend was a huge bully-magnet. We've been threatened, chased and almost beaten up a million times, 99% was caused by him. But I never left him alone, even if those guys were only after him, and we both discovered all of them were sad cowards. They never beat us up, they never ever went further than threatening and pushing a bit. You'd almost feel sorry for them... Almost.
But yeah, I was bullied a lot one year, my best friend failed the year before, so I was again on my own. I was demotivated, skipped half the classes and failed that year too. When I redid it my motivation was completely gone, and I didn't care about anything. The fact that I had the worst class ever, and some other personal problems caused me to fail the same year twice, thus getting kicked out of school.
So I switched! And got new chances at another school. Here I decided to blend in with the crowd, to see how I could "survive" better than the last time. I never wore any gaming shirts (also cause I wasn't addicted anymore :P) and just observed for a while. Some people came to me, I made some friends, acquaintances (or whatever, I'm Dutch, don't blame me if I spell that terrible word wrong) and discovered that school can actually be pretty fun. I aced that year with pretty good grades, and went to the final year. I was starting to feel more confident than I ever felt in a school building, and everything went uphill from there.
And now I'm done. The conclusion is;
-be yourself, but only to a certain degree
-Pick your schools wisely... It really made a big difference for me.
-don't rush the first impression. I tried too hard to make a good first impression on the first school, thus fucking it up.
-don't skip classes... Really, don't. Unless it's gym class xD I usually skipped that without problems
-study... even though there are always more fun things to do.
-Still keep time free for fun though. I wouldn't have made it with non-stop studying. Relaxation is important.
uh, that's enough typing for today. off to bed I go :P
Okay, please forget Fant's first conclusion. He's on a horror-film high at the moment. The last ones are completely correct. Although, like, Home Ec and crap you can skip.
You just have to feel comfortable. You HAVE to be yourself, there's no one else to be and odds are they're pretty boring people :P
Wear lame videogame T-shirts just to prove Fant wrong, please. I'd appreciate it. Bullying will happen to everyone eventually, even if it isn't in high school. My advice? Tell EVERYONE! I've done that twice and it has succeeded both times. And I mean, every student that will listen, every teacher, every counselor, every parent.
And please let my advice override other people's ;O
Here's my two cents about high school and dealing with the no-doubt massive heap of conflict that you'll be on the receiving end of (internal and external).
I'LL quote someone who said it first - "Our greatest fear isn't that we're inadequate. Our greatest fear is that we're powerful beyond measure."
Essentially what that means is to never hold yourself back or dumb yourself down to a level below you. I mean, look at you! Entering high school and having intelligent discussions with people twice your age. I know for a fact already you're beyond the majority of other people from that alone.
Stand out and do it proud mate. People will come and go but never dumb yourself down.
Hey :) yeah I'm starting high school Monday at a private catholic school and I'm kinda scared too. Ugh! Especially for PE where I just know I will fail miserably :P idk we'll see I guess. I'm gonna try my best to be myself & we'll see how that goes but I'm still really scared. I'll let you know how my first week of school goes if I live to see the weekend lol
I remember everyone apart from the 'popular' (see: bitchy) girls hated PE and tried their best to skip out as much as possible, simply because they were afraid the 'popular' girls would tease them etc. Looking back, it was only the people who didn't try who got teased - I'd say just give it a shot; if you mess up, laugh at yourself, don't get upset, and chances are people will smile along with you.
I think the key thing I've learnt since leaving school is that a lot less people actually like the 'popular' kids than you'd think. No matter how scared you are there will always be someone more scared - and making friends just happens without much thought. Above all else, enjoy it! Good luck :)
Right. FayeAlz has more sense than *other people*! JK And I can't do gym worth ****, so they gave me a free pass to the weight room and I haven't had gym with people for six months. I really can't help with that.
I'm a guy and hated PE too. I've never been the sporty type (I go to the gym, but I hate everything that involves throwing, kicking or hitting a ball), and usually fail at everything that involves sports. At my first school I always skipped it. My PE teacher didn't even know I existed until someone told him somewhere near the end of the year _o- On the second school I went, and I had a brilliant teacher who almost made me enjoy it at times, even though I sucked. FayeAlz is right, just laugh at yourself when stuff goes wrong. Not only in PE, but always. I don't know the word for it in English, but if you make fun of yourself before others can they can't do anything really :P Not taking yourself too seriously makes everything easier, I experienced. Only works if your ego isn't huge though.
Humility, Fant. And its amazing how laughing at yourself stops other people from doing it. Besides, most of your grade is getting of your ass and trying, so it really doesn't matter.
toxic waste,
avoid the drama!!! it's not worth it, it's a headache and a pain in the ass, find a good role model (i found several teachers who have were my inspiration and helped me pick my career path, I admire them highly) have fun!, try things that seem out of your league; you'll be surprised, expand your horizons you'll never know who the people around you may grow up to be!
hope it goes well, keep us updated!
Yeah, considering everyone's advice, you are about to have a VERY interesting year.
You guys are fantastic. And, as my superintendant is an incompetant bitch, we have uniforms. Dear God don't let her see that. Anyways; I'm in sophmore level classes for a few. And do people judge people for having acne? I made a sopmore buddy who says they don't and not to worry about it. Oh and she's my homecoming date. Fuck yeah.
If people judge people for acne they're hypocrites. Well, in my experience. And stop going out with older women. LOL
Nah, I had some acne. Nothing terrible, but visible at times, and never heard a thing about it really. Even people that had major acne didn't suffer much bullying.
And Serena, some guys prefer older women xD I definitely don't though :P
Forgive me if I start to think the male line is way out of its league :P
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